10 Jan How to Deliver a Memorable Wedding Speech

Giving a wedding speech is an honor, but it can also be a source of stress. Whether you’re the best man, maid of honor, father of the bride, or even one of the newlyweds, crafting a heartfelt and engaging speech is no small task. If you’re feeling overwhelmed, don’t worry—we’ve witnessed countless wedding speeches as photographers, and we have tips to help you shine.

1. Keep It Short and Sweet

Long speeches can test even the most attentive audience. While you might have a lot to say, try to keep your speech under three minutes. Weddings are filled with activities and moments that demand attention, so a concise speech ensures your message is heard and appreciated.

2. Focus on Toasting, Not Roasting

Inside jokes and lighthearted jabs might seem funny to you, but they can alienate guests who aren’t in on the joke. Instead, concentrate on toasting the couple. Share how you know them, recount a meaningful or funny story, and wrap up with a heartfelt toast that resonates with everyone in the room.

3. Prepare, Don’t Wing It

Even if you’re confident, writing out your speech—or at least some key bullet points—can be a lifesaver. Weddings are busy, emotional days, and nerves (or champagne!) can throw off even the best intentions. Holding note cards or using your phone as a guide won’t diminish the moment, and it’ll help you stay on track.

4. Skip the Clichés

Avoid starting with “For those who don’t know me.” While it’s important to introduce yourself, find a more natural way to do it. For example:
“I’m Callie, the maid of honor, and I’m so excited to celebrate my sister and her new husband today. Thank you all for being here!”
This approach is warm and engaging, without feeling too formal.

5. It’s Okay to Get Emotional

Wedding speeches are often filled with love and sentiment, so don’t worry if you get choked up. If you feel overwhelmed, pause, take a deep breath, and sip some water. This gives you a moment to compose yourself while maintaining the emotional authenticity that makes your speech special.

6. Let the Guests React Naturally

It’s natural to hope for laughter or tears, but don’t let the audience’s reaction dictate how you feel about your speech. Your primary goal is to celebrate the couple and convey your heartfelt message. If you’ve done that, you’ve succeeded—whether or not there’s applause or tears.

Crafting a great wedding speech is all about authenticity. Speak from the heart, keep it simple, and focus on the couple. With these tips, you’ll create a moment that they—and everyone else—will cherish forever.

A Personal Note: You’ve Got This!

I’ve been in your shoes—giving a Maid of Honor speech at my best friend’s wedding. While public speaking isn’t most people’s idea of fun, I can promise it’s not as scary as it seems. Remember, everyone at the wedding is there to celebrate, not critique.

When I spoke, I shared stories about my friendship with the bride, how happy I was to see her so joyful, and wrapped it up with a nod to something we both love: Taylor Swift. I ended with a lyric from her song “Lover”: “All’s well that ends well to end up with you.” It was short, simple, and heartfelt—and that’s all it takes to make your speech a success.

If you follow these tips, your speech will be just as memorable for all the right reasons. And don’t worry—we’ll be there to capture every moment, so you can relive it fondly for years to come. So take a deep breath, raise your glass, and enjoy this special moment. You’ve got this!

Callie Gonsalves

Callie is a contributor of all facets at NuView Photography. Along with writing articles for NuView, she works with customers, organizes events, and keeps everything moving along. A writer by day and a reader by night, Callie logs at least 100 books a year.